Another sober New Year. It never ceases to amaze me that I have the ability to go out and genuinely have an amazing time without having to get tore up from the floor up. My laughter and smiles are genuine, not drink induced, I don’t experience the drama that comes with it, the fights, the black outs, the hangovers or the dozens and dozens of “I’m sorry, it won’t happen agains.”
In the beginning of sobriety, it is very difficult for an alcoholic to imagine “fun and sober” in the same sentence. Some think, “OMG my life is over, I can’t party any more and I’ll never have fun again!” It’s not uncommon for new comers to think that, but it is so untrue. Does this like my New Years was boring?
Once our obsession has been removed & we’ve learned the tools we need, we can go out there and absolutely enjoy life. We don’t have to avoid places that serve alcohol as long as we have a reason to be there. If you think your life is going to be boring if you can’t get wrecked, you may want to dig deeper into your reasons why. When we get sober, our lives aren’t over, they are just beginning. That’s the solid truth. This is my third New Years stone cold sober and I can remember every detail of every single one of them. I would wake up feeling wiped out the next morning, but not because I drank too much the night before but because I laughed, danced and had a ball so my body was hurting like hell.
New Years isn’t about the party and the drinking, it’s about starting over, it’s about change and moving forwarfd into the year to come. There isn’t anything I will be able to accomplish in the new year if I pick up a bottle. I’ll be done for. My life will go straight to hell, do not pass go, do not collect two hundred dollars. Life as I now know it would be OVER. Why would I want to give any of what I have been blessed with in sobriety over the contents of a bottle? It would make no sense at all.
Once upon a time, I couldn’t imagine my life without being able to drink with my friends and get trashed, today, I CAN’T imagine my life with it.
Our lives are what we make of them. We can either move forward and live, or go back to the bottle and die. Either way, it is our choice. Just remember that with every choice we make, there is a consequence. Make sure you’re ready to pay the one for the choice you make. Getting sober and staying that way is not impossible. Nor is it boring in any way. You may not be able to go back to doing the things you are used to doing, but you can enjoy life and discover a whole new way to LIVE it.
AJ Menendez, Master Male Illusionist
January 1, 2015