Most alcoholics drink to escape their reality. However there ARE those who specificity do it for that reason. They are running away from trauma in their lives, pain that others cause them, escape from guilt and anger. No matter what they are running away from, they search for the answers in the bottom of a bottle. Answers that never seem to come. Usually the booze makes a bad situation worse in reality but in our minds, it allows us not to feel. Feeling for an alcoholic is something we run away from the most.
When we wake up the next morning after a binge, we’re left with a hangover from hell, a sour stomach, a dry mouth and the same problems we were running from. So why do we do it? We’re forever trying to escape reality. Escaping, even if it’s a temporary fix, is better for us than dealing with any given situation head on. Sometimes we are fully aware of what we are doing, and sometimes we don’t. Either way, it’s a dangerous thing. Alcohol becomes the solution of our problems and all that we are trying to escape from. Before we know it, it becomes a way of life for us, it’s all we know. Then we begin to drink over the little things; a bad day at work, a fight with the wife, money problems. We use the bottle as justification to anything we do.
What do we get from it? The problems are still there and they aren’t any better. Wouldn’t it be easier to just deal with the situation and be done with it? Of course it would, unfortunately we don’t see it that way. We don’t have the coping skills that normal people do. Our obsession for the drink consumes us in ways that can’t be understood by those who do not understand it first hand. I’ve heard people say time after time, “I don’t understand why they just can’t quit.” Speaking as an alcoholic who knows from personal experience, it’s NOT that easy. It’s not about will power or anything that easy. If it was, the world would have a lot less alcoholics and addicts. It’s not about not caring about our loved ones or not wanting to. Alcoholism is a legitimate disease that goes far beyond the contests of a bottle and our inability to put it down. Sometimes we are aware that we are hurting those around and cannot stop, our guilt for the hurt we are causing others cause us to drink more. The list goes on and on.
We want to escape from absolutely everything we cannot handle, everything that causes us pain and discomfort. We use alcohol to give us false strength, false pride, false everything. Our realities are not that of the reality of quote un quote “normal” people. What we create in our minds we truly believe and we know no other way. We’re trapped in our own minds and we see no way out. That’s just the reality of it.
In treatment, we learn the coping skills, with hard work, blind faith and help, the obsession is removed from us and we learn the tools to deal with situations. Until we are WILLING to do what needs to be done, we will stay lost in our own little fantasy world which will eventually kill us.
July 28, 2014
AJ Menendez, Master Male Illusionist