There will come a day when you can actually LAUGH!
(Sobriety is a serious thing, but you don’t always have to be dead serious)
The funniest thing about this picture is what you DON’T see….Allow me to explain…. I was performing at a function that had this table set up in the kitchen of the facility. I was sober just about a year at the time. When I saw this, I laughed and said to my wife…”For Meeeeee?” As much of an alcoholic as I am, my obsession to drink has been lifted and things like this do not phase me anymore. My mouth did not start to foam, the bottles did not start to talk to me and the urges I may have had way back when were gone. I found the whole situation not only amazing, but I found humor in taking the pic as well.
So there we were, my wife and I getting ready to take this picture and in walks a friend of mine who instantly shocked to see me standing there. He approached the situation like one would approach a potential jumper off of a roof…It was like hearing his words in humorous slow motion…He yelled at my wife, “Why is he around the liquor?????” I busted out laughing! People tend to think when you’re an alcoholic, you can never be around alcohol again, that we must avoid it at all costs. That’s NOT the way it works. Here is a quote straight out of Alcoholic Literature:
“ We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given to us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality….safe and protected. We have not been sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid. That is our experience. That is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition.”
That’s EXACTLY what happens. Therefore being around alcohol no longer bothers me. I don’t have to run away from it. Today I can actually laugh about some of the crazy things I’ve done under the influence and believe me there was A LOT of drunk induced madness….I can tell you stories for days about my antics and even I have to laugh about some of them. I often ask my wife or friends….”Did I really do that?” or I’ll say things like “What in the hell was I thinking????”
Once you are truly sober, mind, body and soul, you can actually learn to laugh at yourself. For me, I LOVE LOVE LOVE to get a rise out of people….ESPECIALLY those where around me in the middle of all my madness, both good and bad. So I’ll do crazy things now just to mess with them…Here are just a few examples of my “Sober antics..” LMAO
- I’ll go out to dinner with friends and when the server comes around to our table and asks me what I would like to drink, (with a dead serious face….) I will look at them and say “I’d LOVE a Jack & Coke with a twist of lime.” As she’s writing it down and everyone is looking at me like I’ve done lost my mind, I’ll then say…”Yes, I really would LOVE one, but both my sponsor and my wife would kick my ass!” The server usually doesn’t know what to say, the people around me are usually smacking me and I’ll just sit there and laugh
- (Same scenario) I will ask the server to put my Shirley Temple (with extra cherries) in a “drink cup” so I can feel like a grown up with the rest of the people at the table.
- While at the club, I will clean a beer bottle out extremely well, pour soda in it and walk about drinking it….LMAO LMAO
Look, I’m sober, but I can still act like a smart-ass...
Again, you MUST be able to laugh at yourself. That doesn’t happen until you’re truly sober, but it does happen. I’m an alcoholic and an addict…that doesn’t mean I’ve got to wear that badge like the scarlet letter….It means I’ve got a disease, I am now in remission I guess you could say. It is what it is, life goes on. I can either enjoy life to the fullest or I can let this disease suck the life out of me and I can die a slow, painful death. I spent MANY years just existing in this life, now I want to enjoy LIVING in it. It truly is an amazing thing to be able to laugh today, even if it is at myself. There have been many times in my sobriety when people would tell me of my antics that I do not remember because I’m a black out drunk and it even shocks me. I have spit food across the table listening to some of these stories and all I can do is laugh. It feels good to be able to laugh. Lets face it, during our addictions, rarely do we feel the joy of laughing…. To be able to get sober and actually feel the joy of laughter is a miracle in itself.
April 28, 2014